I actually read that Tumblr post you reference here, and because I was interested in the original issue, I followed the links back to the original poster. Two things: 1, that second poster, the one who chided you, gave the exact same response to every other person who tried to post something helpful/encouraging in response to the post; 2, there was absolutely nothing in that original post to let anyone know the first poster was part of that Specific Cultural Issue, only that she was aware of it and wanting to be sensitive. "Inappropriate" seemed, and still seems, an odd choice, especially coming from a person who didn't even write the post. "You're misunderstanding the point," yes. "Inappropriate," though ... inappropriate is someone making fun of my grandfather immediately after his death (didn't happen, just using a hypothetical here); misunderstanding is someone asking me how my grandfather is doing because they heard he was sick but not of his death, and wanted to show they care. Big difference.
Which is all to say, assuming ill intent doesn't help you promote your cause, and it doesn't help others want to join your cause when they know every word they say is going to be automatically assigned the most negative meaning possible. There is a legitimate difference between speaking forcefully and even angrily over injustice, and having a chip on your shoulder against even those who genuinely care about and for you.
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Date: 2014-02-10 01:14 am (UTC)From:yes. "Inappropriate," though ... inappropriate is someone making fun of my grandfather immediately after his death (didn't happen, just using a hypothetical here); misunderstanding is someone asking me how my grandfather is doing because they heard he was sick but not of his death, and wanted to show they care. Big difference.
Which is all to say, assuming ill intent doesn't help you promote your cause, and it doesn't help others want to join your cause when they know every word they say is going to be automatically assigned the most negative meaning possible. There is a legitimate difference between speaking forcefully and even angrily over injustice, and having a chip on your shoulder against even those who genuinely care about and for you.