I like the way YOU think, you non binary soul, you. One might even say we are kindred spirits. :-D

Yes - everyone loses - it is sad. I wish that instead we could ask, what is this heartbreaking pattern a SYMPTOM of in our collective culture? But that would involve much more difficult work of taking responsibility for how we care for the members of our human family and structural change flowing from that ... As they say ... "Ain't nobody got time for that."