I see what you mean. It's better to learn than to continue being ignorant. (And on the other hand, yes, I wish people would understand that one person's pain isn't more valid than anyone else's pain!)
In the case of my issue on Thursday (which I explain more in the comment above), I honestly had no idea I was even dealing with a racial issue, and the response made no sense to me. I don't think it would have hurt anybody if they'd just IGNORED my misstep instead of calling me out-- it wasn't a thing I needed to learn about their culture, it was just me not knowing enough about this PARTICULAR POST. It won't help me in the future because it was a specific instance.
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In the case of my issue on Thursday (which I explain more in the comment above), I honestly had no idea I was even dealing with a racial issue, and the response made no sense to me. I don't think it would have hurt anybody if they'd just IGNORED my misstep instead of calling me out-- it wasn't a thing I needed to learn about their culture, it was just me not knowing enough about this PARTICULAR POST. It won't help me in the future because it was a specific instance.