I was going to come back and add one other comment, but then never got around to it until finally now. That whole thing about how people grow into themselves and become real people with real lives of their own. John tells me stories about his school social life that make me sad. He was that dork that everyone made fun of, except that he was bigger than everyone so there was no physical attacks, but he was still totally taunted in very obvious ways. And now he's fairly normal and well liked by those who know him. Proof that there is life after high school, thank god.